Teen Dating Violence and Awareness Tips

Teen Dating Violence affects 1 in 3 teens. This is not just physical abuse but it is emotional abuse also. (check out power and control wheel)
Yelling, threatening, name calling, extreme possessiveness, and obsessive phone calling are all a phase of dating violence
You are a victim of dating violence if you are going out with someone who is……jealous and possessive? Won’t let you have friends? Checks up on you and won’t accept breaking up?
Tries to control you by being bossy, giving orders, making all the decisions? Does not take your opinion seriously?
Puts you down in front of friends and tells you that you would be nothing without him/her?
Is violent, has a history of fighting, loses temper quickly, brags about mistreating you or others, grabs, pushes, shoves or hits you?
Scares you? Makes you worry about reactions to things you say or do? Threatens you or uses or owns weapons?
Pressures you for sex or is forceful or is scary about sex? Gets too serious about a relationship to fast?
Makes you family and friends and concerned or fear for your safety?
Abuses drugs or alcohol and pressures you to do the same?
Believes and he or she should be in control of the relationship?

If you answered yes to any of these questions it is possible that you are a victim of dating violence or abuse. Both males and females in heterosexual and homosexual relationships can experience dating violence or abuse.

Safety Tips for you or someone you know who is experiencing Dating Violence.
Get out of an abusive relationship, don’t put up with the abuse you deserve better!!!!
Know that you are not alone. Teens from all over the country of all different economical and ethnic backgrounds have been involved in a violent relationship
Understand that you have done nothing wrong, it is not your fault
Know the more you stay in an abusive relationship the more intensive the violence will become
Talk with your parents, a friend, counselor, a faith or spiritual leader, or someone else you trust. The more isolated you are from your friends and family, the more control your abuser has over you.
Alert a school counselor or security officer about the abuse
Avoid being alone at school, your job, on the way to and from places and anywhere else he/she may have access to you
Always tell someone where you are going and when you plan to be back
Know that you can get help from professionals at rape crisis centers, health services, counseling centers, your family health care center or local clinic
Do not meet him/her alone. Do NOT let him/her in your home, car, or near your when you are alone

Being a friend to A Victim of Dating Violence. Since most teens talk to other teens about their problems. If a friend tells you things that sound like his/her relationship is abusive. Don’t ignore the abuse, Talk to your friend here’s some suggestions:

Express your concerns. Tell your friend that you are worried about him/her, support do not judge
Point out your friends strength-remind them of their talents abilities and gifts
Encourage your friend to confide in a trusted adult. Offer to go with the friend for professional help.
Find out what laws in our state that can protect you or your friend from the abuser
Never put yourself in a dangerous situation with the victims partner. Don’t try to mediate or get directly involved
Call police if you witness an assault. Tell an adult, school principal, guidance counselor, or school resource officer-if you suspect the abuse but don’t witness it.

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